Paul Janka – Setting The Frame

Love him or hate him notorious New York Charming Rogue™, Paul Janka, delivers solid advice to meeting women during the day and getting them into bed. Here he teaches how to set the frame necessary to do this.

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Paul Janka Interview

This installment of The Same Night Lays Interview Series features whom I think is the day game expert: Paul Janka. Paul is the author of “Getting Laid In NYC” and my personal favorite, “The Attraction Formula”, as well as the DVD Series “Beyond The Digits”. For Guys looking to improve their Day Game, I can think of no source better than Paul Janka.

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Paul Janka – Sexually Aggressive Texts

There are two schools of thought on this. One of my player friends counsels, “Get the date! Don’t scare her off which sexual innuendo and dirty comments over text.” He’s right; I do lose a lot of cute girls by throwing out a few overly-flirty comments. By the same token, I am very good at pick-up so I can get numbers with almost no effort. The reason I use sexually-suggestive texts early on is that they provide a filter (and, frankly, I sometimes can’t help myself. For example, a cute photographer from Australia was lying out getting some sun the other day. I told her to send a couple pics of her cute figure. She did. The two pics showed her tummy, thighs, and crotch. Read more

Paul Janka – Secrets Of Phone Game

The secret to making a successful first phone call is…don’t.

More relationships have failed to get off the ground due to awkward first calls than for almost any other reason. Unless you’ve got a voice like Barry White and the experience of Wilt Chamberlain, I’d say save the chit-chat for a face-to-face conversation. Instead, use a text message. It’s cheap (if you have an unlimited plan) and you can send the same message to multiple recipients, which is efficient. If you get four numbers in the course of your day (1 at Starbucks®, 1 at the gas station, 1 at the deli and 1 in the bookstore/movie theater/grocery store/cleaners, etc.) wait until after work, about rush-hour and send out the same message to all three: Read more

Paul Janka – The Curse of Bad Mojo

I was on the subway today, heading from midtown to Brooklyn. I felt pretty good, though I hadn’t eaten breakfast so my energy was a bit low. I walked on the subway and looked up and down the car. I spotted an attractive blonde in a purple dress, but she was a bit old and she was squeezed between two guys, so there was no easy rap – I’d have had to stand up and rap to her. I looked the other way, and there, towards the end of car was a gorgeous woman, sitting alone. And I don’t mean hot, good-looking, or sexy – I mean a bona-fide “10″. She was sitting alone, listening to her iPod. I sat next to her and evaluated the situation. I noticed, right off, an engagement ring. I mentally threw the towel in, thinking that it wasn’t worth striking up a conversation… Read more

Paul Janka – Mistakes To Avoid On Dates

There are plenty of mistakes a guy can make when he’s out with a girl for the first time. Right now, I’ll address one of the most common mistakes: seating. Ever have this problem: you and a buddy see two girls across the way and go over. He sits next to the one you like and you sit next to the friend, not exactly your type. You make small talk; so does she. Maybe your buddy isn’t hitting it off with the other girl, either. This can easily happen, but it takes a very strong personality to break social norms and say, “Switch!” Few people will do so. Most foursomes so situated will sit in this poor energy configuration and the one couple that had a chance – you and the other girl – may never get an opportunity to be alone. You both feel badly if you do so, like you’re betraying your initial partners. This most often ends with everybody feeling blah. Read more

Paul Janka – How To Get A Woman’s Phone Number

How can you walk up to a complete stranger and have the audacity to ask for her telephone number? You’ve barely known this person for two minutes and already you’re presuming she’ll give you her number? That’s exactly right. Learning how to pick up women requires being direct, yet creating an air of mystery. By creating the conditions that arouse her intrigue but not her suspicion, the beautiful woman in front of you will do just that.

Creating the ideal conditions depends on two things: what you bring to the table, and how well you use the surroundings, or external variables. What you bring to the table includes: Read more

Paul Janka – How To Get A Woman’s Phone Number

How can you walk up to a complete stranger and have the audacity to ask for her telephone number? You’ve barely known this person for two minutes and already you’re presuming she’ll give you her number? That’s exactly right. Learning how to pick up women requires being direct, yet creating an air of mystery. By creating the conditions that arouse her intrigue but not her suspicion, the beautiful woman in front of you will do just that.

Creating the ideal conditions depends on two things: what you bring to the table, and how well you use the surroundings, or external variables. What you bring to the table includes: Read more

Paul Janka – How To Attract Women

When are women the most receptive to meeting a guy? When they least expect it. Call it cynicism, being jaded, or general human suspicion, but women are most guarded precisely when they know men are on the hunt. Of course, you can get lucky on a Saturday night in a crowded downtown bar, but the odds are against it. Unless you’re particularly good-looking, stylish, funny or charming, you’re not going to “out-compete” the other guys in line. A typical “meat-market” is really a poor place to encounter a female because it’s a competitive situation. This means you’ll have to impress the female more than other guys do. If you’re naturally an alpha-male, then go for it. You probably don’t need tips though, and you’re certainly not going to a bar to meet your girls – they’ll be coming to you. Read more