Swinggcat – Having Women In Your Life

Having Women In Your Life…

Swinggcat – author of Real World Seduction

Today I’m going to share with you something
that I talk about in my book. If you aren’t
currently doing what I am about to tell you,
DOING IT could increase your success with
women a hundred and fifty percent…if not
more.

Whether you are looking for one-night-stands,
threesomes, an awesome girlfriend…or
whatever, implementing what you’re about to
learn will redound in a giant step towards
your goal.


Whether you consider yourself to be a
slithering lounge lizard, a prodigious
Casanova, a stand up guy, or a dilapidated
ejaculate, if you are not yet doing what I am
about to tell you, doing it will turbo charge
your current success with women.

NOT DOING what I’m about to tell you is one
of the biggest roadblocks preventing men
from ATTRACTING women.

What you are about to learn is probably
nothing you haven’t already heard. It,
however, is one of the most neglected skills -
especially by guys learning how to ATTRACT and
be more successful with women.

Before I tell you what this secret is, I am
going to share a little story with you. When I
first became serious about mastering, what I
used to perceive as, the ego bruising “social
minefields,” in order to succeed with the
women I desired, I befriended many guys
trying, as well, to get this area of their
life out of the way.

Some of these guys considered themselves to be
spineless little worms. Others thought of
themselves as full blown Casanovas. And a few
felt like Average Joes. Some were amazing at
quickly getting women into bed; while a few,
alas, couldn’t, even if their life depended on
it, talk to a woman.

All of us became really close and formed a
taskforce with one goal in mind: To become
more successful with women. I made a lot of
good friends, and witnessed a few of them do
some amazing things, ranging from making out
with women in bars to occasionally having
sex with a woman they had just met.

Despite what looked to be great success, there
was a dark, depressing cloud brooding over us:
None of us had any female friends. Some of the
group had female friends, but got rid of them,
thinking that they would take away time from
attracting women. A few had never had a female
friend. When we went out we never were just
hanging out. Our only goal was to generate
attraction in women. We did not have a single
morsel of interest interacting with women we
felt weren’t ATTRACTED to us. When entering
a bar, women could feel our hunter energy, a
pack wolves waiting to attack. Even if one of
us made out with a woman, the night would
usually end with just us guys.

Are you starting to get what’s wrong with this
picture?

Good.

In my book, Real World Seduction, I talk about
the importance of making five female friends
that fit the archetype of the sort of woman
you strive to ATTRACT.

Before breaking down the reasons for making at
least five female friends, I’m going to get
crystal clear about what I mean by “making
friends with women.”

If you’re someone who sits around with their
female friends, giving each other hot pink
manicures and pedicures, listening to their

problems with men, you’re in big trouble.
Being friends with women is not about you
playing the big passive bottom in their
“bitter at men” gang bang. The only exception
to this is if you are gay. My point: Being
friends with women is about treating them
exactly how you treat your guy friends.
Women know you are not their girlfriends.
When you act like you are their girlfriend,
they interpret it as an unconvincing pretense
used to get into their pants.

To reiterate: Being friends with women is
about acting the way you would around your guy
friends.

Let’s discuss the reasons for making friends
with women.

Reason # 1: You Will Be More Comfortable
Around Women In General:

Men who don’t have female friends are usually
nervous and uncomfortable around women,
causing women to feel uncomfortable around
them. When a woman picks this sort of man up
by the proverbial scruff of his neck, and
mercilessly tears him apart, like a cheaply
wrought rag doll, he becomes nervous and
uncomfortable in his own skin. This results
in her becoming nervous and uncomfortable. In
her book, this will take you straight to the
top of the Creep-O-Meter.

Trying to make women feel comfortable around
you when you are uncomfortable in your own
skin is usually a losing battle – and often
times leads to them feeling even more
uncomfortable.

The biggest part of making women feel
comfortable is being comfortable in your
own skin and around women. The quickest road I
know to becoming comfortable in your own skin
and around women is to make female friends.

Reason # 2: You Will No Longer Need An Endless
Supply Of Pick Up Lines And Memorized Material
To Be Successful With Women:

I know some guys who are amazing at
approaching women and initially getting women
attracted to them but as soon as they run out
of rehearsed material, things take a
floundering turn for the awkward as they buckle
completely. One common scenario is that a guy
will meet a woman and succeed in generating the
emotion inside her of wanting, chasing, and
reaching for more of him through using
memorized material. She willingly gives him her
number. When he calls she has jamais vu (jamais
vu is the opposite of déjà vu: it is the
illusion that you are encountering something
you have already experienced for the first
time). It is like she is talking to a total
stranger and the emotion of her feeling
attraction towards him is long gone. Since he
doesn’t know what to do outside the realm of
using memorized material, she treats him like
a random telemarketer trying to solicit her,
cutting the phone call abnormally short and
hanging up. The problem is that this guy
neither understands women nor knows how to act
around them. One of the best ways for
developing these skills is by being friends
with women – especially the type you strive to
succeed with. Once you have taken the time
to implement the skills you learned from my
book in the real world and have made a few
female friends, you’ll start to notice
something cool happening in your interactions
with women: After talking to a woman for a
few minutes you’ll know exactly how to
generate attraction with her, without having
to use rehearsed material. I’m not against
using memorized material – in fact, I’m a fan
of it. But if you can only interact with women
using memorized material, you are in big
trouble.

Reason # 3: Women Know When A Man Is Not
Frequently Around Other Women:

Women are clairvoyant when comes to knowing
whether or not a man is frequently around
women. Women assume that if other females hang
around you, then you must be a cool guy. They
assume, likewise, that if no females hang
around you, something might be wrong with
you – bad thing! This is pretty much herd
mentality – go figure!

One of the big problems with a lot of the
material on how to attract women is that it
only focuses on making you feel more confident
about yourself. As, alas, you might know, you
can do all the affirmations in the world, but
if you don’t have the social skills to attract
women, your out of luck.

Another blunder guys make when learning how to
attract women is only memorizing material to
say to women. Only memorizing material without
understanding why you are doing it is a
makeshift solution to attracting and succeeding
with women. By just memorizing a few pick up
lines, you’re cheating yourself out of really
learning how to attract women. My book has
hundreds of powerful things to say to women. But
these are only examples to help you learn the
skills needed for attracting women. My belief
is that people learn from a combination of
explanations and examples. If you ever purchase
a product on attracting women that only gives
you explanations but no examples or examples –
think pick up lines – but no explanations, you
are being cheated – big time!

My book takes you through hundreds of real
world examples and painstakingly breaks down
the structure and purpose of these examples. If
you put forth the effort studying my book, you
will never have to memorize another person’s
pick up lines or material again. Because you
will understand the underlying structure behind
generating attraction with women, allowing you
to come up with your own material and lines.
So if you haven’t picked up my book, do today!

http://www.realworldseduction.com

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Swinggcat responds to your emails:

Comment:

Hi Swinggcat,

Just to say BIG "thank you" for the amazing
stuff you write – your posts, your book, the
ideas…
I’m still using your challenging and
qualifying stuff without any significant
changes and it works like a CHARM.

I think that you invented the formula all we
need. Your system is really something
completely new – as you say it is “swinggcat”.
And now my request: If you supply us with MORE
of this kind of REAL-LIFE examples/stories you
will PUSH the things much, much further in the
right direction. I think what the guys really
need is more of REAL seduction examples and
less theory. (Please don’t think that I’m an
advocate of the Outer Game thus ignoring the
Inner one).

If I try to explain the principles of the
internal combustion engine by the laws of
physics and chemistry it will take me a lot
of time to draw the picture…however if I
show you a short movie how it works without
much explanation…you will get the picture
almost instantly…

And this is how your stuff works with women –
INSTANTLY. When I run your method on a woman
she starts looking amazed and in disbelieve,
looses control and composure…and after
awhile has no choice but surrender…

It’s Very similar with the seduction process
provided that you have some basic
understanding…

The guys need the connection between
something real in their mind(your real-life
stories) and the reality in which they
operate and they want to shape.

I have collected almost everything. I’m very
well acquainted with all the seduction
theories, methods systems…etc currently
existing and have to admit that your system
looks like mount Everest compared to the
rest ..

I consider it like a new religion and keep in
mind that thousands and thousands of guys out
there are awaiting your new fantastic
real-life stuff… so please keep up the good
work and God bless you, MAN…

- A From California

My Comments:

Wow! – I’m glad you are having success using
the material from my book. I know what I
teach works because it has worked for me
and many others.

You were successful because you took the
time to master the techniques in my book –
and I applaud you for that. I think the
success you are starting to taste is
something that is attainable to many other
guys, if they only took the time to master
these techniques.

About Real World Seduction/Swinggcat Method
being a Religion: Well, in no way do I
consider what I teach a religion. I am just
some guy who has a lot of experience with
women. And, at least I feel, has figured
some things out about them that others
haven’t.

Then again – maybe if I turn it into a
religion I can get a nice tax break!

Comment:

Maybe I’m being a bit premature here, since
I have not had a chance to use your stuff
yet (I just received it less than 24 hours
ago and spent my nightshift at work reading
the bulk of it), but your SH -T is SWEEET!!!
I was skeptical about ordering your eBook
because I’ve ordered a few seduction manuals
in the past (3 to 5 especially over the past
21/2 months) and I’ve gotten very minimal
results. Now don’t get me wrong…some of
the other manuals that I’ve ordered I think
have some merit to them; They have their own
terminology which is pretty much equivalent
to your stages of Attraction. But, where I
have failed in the past in getting these
women over these past several months is,
I think, at the attraction and close stage.

I have consistently had all the girls that
I’ve set up a date – sorry, meeting with –
flake on me (A few of them whom I’ve been
acquainted with for a few months or so, and
one which I thought was in the bag, as early
as yesterday…Can you believe that mutherf -
ckin’ SH -T!!!). A lot of the other manuals,
in my opinion do not give great concrete
examples or examples to work with. My
problem is with the Attraction stage. I can
never get them to follow through on their
commitment to meet up with me. If I could
do that, then I think I could fumble my way
through a successful close or non-successful
close; but I need the experience of getting
past that Attraction stage so I will
eventually, no doubt in my mind, become
successful at closing these women; My
efforts are always frustrated coming out
of the starting block. Reading your examples
of Prizing, with the Sub-Headings consisting
of:

1. Open Loops
2. Pushing & Pulling
3. Revealing & Concealing
4. Undermining

And then following up with Qualifying &
Challenging, is wicked to the point of
Evil!!! I feel a sense of renewed hope
in succeeding at the Attraction Stage
(My personal weak point), and I can’t
wait to try them out! Whether It’s your
system by itself, or using it in
conjunction with other systems (which I
aforementioned earlier, is meritorious in
their own way), I am confident that I, and
any other User will kick ASS!!!

Sorry for the long email. I felt inspired
at this moment to write it, and anything
less than what is presented would do you,
the reader, and me any injustice if the
full background story was presented.

Anyway, Thanks again, and I will keep
you updated on my future successes.

- Ray from Canada

My Comments:
Thank you for the compliments. Now go out
and start getting the success you deserve.

Question:
First off I just want to say I have been
reading your book, and although I am not
finished yet, the information in it so far
has been awesome. Your book fills in the
holes that others left out. Instead of
giving vague references on what to do, you
spell it all out in detail. I have come to
a point where I am no longer taking things
personally; but now that I can get a number
fairly easily I have come to another
stumbling block. I find that even though
I may ask for an email the woman will say,
"no, here take my number instead", so now
I’m thinking cool. But, when I call these
women they don’t return phone calls or act
cold and standoffish, the opposite of how
they were in person. Am I missing something?
I cannot see myself as being the PRIZE if
the woman already has the power because I’m
calling her, and she can act rude, ignore,
or not even return calls (the woman has
already established the frame/meta-frame).
In a way she forces a man to chase her. I
know I have read books that say persistence,
but when is enough enough. Is there
another way?

I think this is a very important question
that most men have trouble with.
Thanks in advance for your help.

- G from Texas

My Comments:

Your doing awesome. I really, though, need
more info to answer your question.

How long are you waiting to call these
women? As a general rule DON’T wait too
long to call. Calling too soon can make
you look needy, but waiting too long is
usually worse. If, for example, you met and
generated attraction with a woman five days
ago, she has probably already interacted
with several guys who she also was attracted
to since that day. My point: Five days is an
eternity in her world in which you have
probably been long forgotten, my man. Since
I have been doing this stuff for awhile,
and I can leave quite an impression on
women, I call when I feel like it.
Remember: agonizing over whether or not a
woman sees you as the PRIZE, is a form you
chasing her – of her being the PRIZE in the
interaction. Not caring what a woman thinks
of you can be very powerful! Also, as I said
earlier in this newsletter, women sometimes
have jamais vu. Even if when first meeting
them you manage to generate the emotion in
them of wanting, chasing, and reaching for
more of you, by the time you talk to them
on the phone this emotion might be long
gone and forgotten. So you have to reignite
this emotion in them. I have ways of doing
this. Maybe I’ll do a whole newsletter
on countering jamais vu.

The other possibility is that there is
plenty of attraction there, but that women
don’t feel comfortable enough to take that
call to action with you. There are a lot
of guys who can generate attraction with
women but fail to create the comfort,
allowing her take action.

A caveat: Making a woman comfortable is
less about using particular lines or
strategies and more about feeling
comfortable in your own skin and with
women, believing that you deserve
beautiful women, taking a strong lead, and
assuming that she wants to do what you
want her to – be it having sex with you,
having a threesome with you, going on a date
with you…or whatever. In fact, most of the
lines and strategies used to make women feel
comfortable taking action, either end up
making women feel more uncomfortable or kill
the attraction all together, if you have not
mastered the aforementioned things. So if
you want to be more than the cheesy guy in
the bar who has a couple good memorized
lines and become the sort of man women not
only feel attraction towards but want to be
around, pick up my book today.

Real World Seduction

‘Till next time,

Swinggcat

P.S.-If you have a success story you would
like to share, or a question you would like
to ask, or a comment you would like to make,
please email me at:

swinggcat@realworldseduction.com

Include the fist initial of your first and
last name. And include the country,
state/province, and city you live in.

This whole "learning" thing goes both ways,
you know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit
"reply" to this email, because I won’t
get it!

Thanks!

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