Braddock – Approach Anxiety

Some of the worst feelings in my life have come when I have chosen to avoid something I wanted out of fear. Knowing that I logically wanted something and then didn’t go for it because I succumb to a bunch of emotional rationalizations that are 95% bullshit, is killer. It reminds me of the Jim Rohn quote, “We suffer one of two things. Either the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. You’ve got to choose discipline, versus regret, because discipline weighs ounces and regret weighs tons.”

As we all know, more often than not emotions steer the ship of our life and especially our day to day and moment to moment decisions..not logic. I feel like one of the biggest life challenges we all face is cultivating the ability to choose right action over fear. Fear can come in many forms, actual gut level pain, rationalizations, excuses, deflecting, blaming, comparison, etc. No matter what form it takes on, one of the greatest handcuffs we face, especially in the dating world, is overcoming that fear.

Sadly, the raw emotion of fear, is much much worse than the actual root of the fear. Actually approaching a woman is actually not as painful as the raw emotion of thinking about it. It’s strange how much your life changes when you learn to control this emotion and move more effortlessly through the world.

While the emotional feeling inside will never go away completely, you can condition your body and mind to be almost numb to it. Much like when you play baseball as a kid. It’s scary the first time you step in the batters box and have a kid throwing a ball at you. But after several years of playing, the fear melts away. Strangely, in the example of baseball, the fear should actually get worse being as the pitcher throws harder and harder as you get older. Even though you know this logically, your mind is numb to the fear.

What happens is that you develop a new habit. A habit of right action. If you always choose right action over emotion, you take the guess work out of it for your body and brain. Eventually your body and mind calm down and get on board through desensitization.

Guys come to me on bootcamp and think there must be something wrong with them because they have such bad approach anxiety. There is nothing wrong with you just because you have approach anxiety. If I took the best dating coach in the world who says he has zero approach anxiety and threw him in the batters box against a major league pitcher who throws 100mph, would he feel anxiety? Of course. If I took the most calm, cool, collected major league baseball player, who never gets nervous in the batters box, and took him a bar and forced him to approach a beautiful woman he didn’t know, would he feel anxiety? Of course.

You are feeling nervous for a whole host of reasons, which I will explore in great detail later in this article, but mainly it’s because you are doing something you have very few reference experiences for in a situation where you feel like you can’t make a mistake. In baseball, you get to start off on a tee, with no one watching. Once you have that down you can start hitting soft toss. If you mess that up, no big deal. No one is watching and no one is judging you. Once you have that down, you can move to the pitching machine, then a real pitcher. You can do all of this in the off season with no one watching. By the time the season rolls around, you are ready.

In pickup you don’t get to slowly graduate up to the wold series. The first woman you approach feels essentially like it’s the world series. On bootcamp we almost always cure 85%-90% of a guys approach anxiety by the end of the weekend. The weekend forces the guys to get mass exposure like they’ve never experienced. Sure, you will always feel something when you approach, but you can make it manageable. Read more

David Wygant – Your Halloween Alter Ego

I know it’s over a week until Halloween, but I wanted all of you to be prepared ahead of time. In today’s podcast I will tell you how you can make this Halloween amazing! More on that in a minute…

Halloween is the night that singles go out to talk to and meet characters who are like people they really want to meet. It’s also the night they go out as the character they’ve always wanted to become.

It’s really funny about Halloween. People get dressed up as what I like to call their “alter ego.”

Women will dress up in lingerie because they want to go out and have sex that night. Men will dress up as a super hero because they want to be a stud around women.

What’s up with the men who dress up as women? Does that mean they need to be women? Who knows. Read more

Adonis (Nick Quick) – “Snake Bite” Video

Ever since Brad Jackson over at PUMA Skills started posting about my infamous “Snake Bite” technique my inbox has been flooded with people demanding me to share it.

Thing is, its kinda hard to describe it in words so I set out with a hidden camera to demonstrate it in real time with real girls.

Here’s why the “Snake Bite” is so effective: 1) It’s playful and fun; 2) You can use it to Sexually Frame the interaction (i.e. “Do you feel the poison? Feels good doesn’t it? You’re going to feel it start to tingle…you know where its tingling now, don’t you?”, etc…)

Gauge her response and you’d be surprised how often you can use this to add a massively fun, playful, yet ultimately sexual vibe to your ineractions. Read more

Ratisse – Persistence

A quick video from Ratisse talking about the importance of persistence and how that got him laid twice recently.

Details on those Lay Reports and how you can use the same in your interactions.

Enjoy! Read more

David Wygant – There’s No Such Thing As A Bad Day

Have you ever asked someone how their day is going, and had them respond, “Man, I am just having such a bad day today!” It makes you almost want to run away.

When I hear that I almost want say to myself “God, I wish I didn’t even ask,” because you know what is going to follow that answer. You know that if they are letting you know that they are having a bad, that they are also going to want to share everything that happened on that bad day with you.

They are going to bring all that bad energy with them, and they are going to dump it all over you. Having to listen to someone vent about a bad day is like having the flu for five or ten minutes. Read more

El Topo (Steve Mayeda) – Body Language Videos

El Topo is at it again bringing an incredible video series on Body Language. You won’t get this information from anyone else so I am posting them here.

Enjoy!
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Adonis (Nick Quick) – The Infamous “Hot Potato” Video

Adonis (aka Nick Quick) and Epik demonstrate how to slip the 5 logistical questions into a conversation. Also, they demonstrate that they can’t act for sh*t.

Sorry about the choppy video. We filmed this spur-of-the-moment with a friend’s video camera, and didn’t realize the corrupted frames until later. Oh well. You can just pretend that we have advanced Parkinson’s and we STILL pick up chicks.

To Download The Accompanying Ebook To The Hot Potato Video AND To See A FREE One Hour Video On How To Get Same Night Lays Consistently Go To SameNightSeduction.com

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David Wygant – I See Bullshit

Have you ever seen the movie The Sixth Sense in which the little kid utters that now famous line, “I see dead people?” I sometimes feel like I see bullshit.

I read my emails every day and I listen to what people are saying, but when I read between the lines what I really see is bullshit. Every day someone emails me and tells me that they can’t do something, or they won’t do something or that change is too hard.

The truth is that they don’t want to do the work because the work is too hard. A lot of people are lazy. A lot of people don’t want to do the work.

A friend of mine has been complaining for the last fifteen years about how fat he is. Every year when I go see him in Manhattan he complains about this and tells me that he needs to lose weight.

Then he’ll go on some miracle 48 hour diet expecting it to fix the problem. I tell him all the time that if he’d just go to the gym and do cardio four days a week, that he will lose weight. I tell him that if he’d just eat healthy that he would look good.

I’ve had this same conversation with him probably at least one thousand times, but he’s always looking for the miracle cure to the problem. We’re all looking for the miracle cure, which is why I see bullshit. Read more

Adonis – Same Night Lays Video Clip

I haven’t been posting as much to this site lately, and I apologize. I have been working on something you’re going to like if you are into getting women into bed the same night you meet them? I don’t know about you, but I hate going on dates, I hate talking to girls on the phone, but I do love having amazing sex with amazing women. I want you to share my secrets on how I get women into bed in only a few hours MAX. Watch the video for more on how I do this consistently! Read more

Ratisse – Denver Lair Video

Ratisse is prolific. Here’s another video from his recent talk at the Denver Lair. Read more

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