Being Safe Is Risky, part 1

Hey guys,

I thought I’d post today on a very crucial aspect that may be killing your game. Do you spend a lot of time reading articles, posts and ebooks? Do you spend hour upon hour listening to seduction guru’s podcasts and cd’s? Do you likewise spend a major portion of your day watching their videos? Perhaps you spend a majority of your day pondering the theories in your head? All of these things are good and they can definitely boost your game. Let me ask you a more important question…How much time are you actually spending in the field? That’s where the game is actually played; that’s where you are actually going to improve your skill-set.

It amazes me how much time and effort the average aspiring pickup-artist spends learning these vital skills, and how little they actually practice them in real life. I know, I know…Practicing this stuff in the field implies a certain amount of risk. I, however, believe that staying at home, or even trying to pick chicks up on myspace or facebook or whatever is an even bigger risk. You are risking transforming all your effort in learning this skill-set into little more than a waste of time.

A lot of guys study and study and study all the material thinking that if they can just learn enough they can go out in the field, make one approach, and then have a hot new girlfriend. The thought of fucking things up even once is too painful for them to handle….but if they can just do that one perfect approach, they will never have to risk fucking it up.

I’m hear to tell you this kind of thinking is detrimental to your game. Even if you did do that one ‘perfect approach’ and consequently got your hot new girlfriend, I think it would be highly unlikely that you’d be able to keep her for any amount of time. Reason: Beside the fact that you probably just got extremely lucky on this approach, you still have yet to build a solid skill-set. Skill-sets can only be learned by doing. You are going to get blown out of sets in the beginning, you are going to get stuck with a girl not knowing how to lead the interaction, you are going to get girls not answering your phone calls or flaking on your dates….but through it all you will learn from your experiences.

By staying at home trying to acquire this skill-set you are actually being very risky. If you are truly serious about gaining these skills, you can take no bigger risk than by playing it safe and staying at home hoping that eventually you will get it when you do decide to leave the house or when your dream girl happens to knock on your door. This is wishful thinking. Be willing to take a risk and get out in the field…this is a much ‘safer’ way to ensure your success.