Approach Anxiety = Bullshit!!

Upon further reflection of the subject, I’ve come to decide that Mystery’s commonly accepted theory on approach anxiety is bullshit! In fact, I’ve decided that feeling you get commonly called AA probably isn’t anxiety at all, we’ve just mislabeled it in our head.

But first my refutation of Mystery’s argument. According to his theory, the reason we have this anxiety is because somewhere in our ancestor’s tribal past, if you approached the wrong woman (one already claimed by the alpha male tribal leader), the tribal leaders could have you killed. Making a mistake on approaching women was near certain death. This trait of having fear would serve the purpose of protecting the non-tribal leaders from being killed…but ask yourself this: If this were the case, who’s gene’s would be more likely to be passed on?? The alpha tribal leaders who already had the women? Or the beta guys that were afraid to approach women for fear of being killed?

My impression is that the alpha tribal leader’s (and his circle of tribal leaders) genes would be more likely to get passed on….leaving the trait of being afraid to approach women in our ancient past. Logically this trait (if there ever was such a trait) would have long since been weeded out of existence. We would be the desendents of the guys who had the courage to approach womena and therefore DID have women whom they reproduced with successfully!

So now let’s think about what this feeling we get actually may be. It is my conclusion that this trait probably serves a very good and useful function and that is why it is near universal in men. I mean, I have talked to a few guys who claimed they had no approach anxiety whatsoever….but when I questioned them further, they did admit to feeling something.

What is this feeling that we naturally get when we see an attractive woman? Here are my thoughts…I think what is really happening is your body is preparing you to be at your best when you approach the woman. Think of it, you see an attractive woman and your first instinct is, “Goddamn, I want to get to know this woman”….and then it happens….

You get that rush of endorphins to your brain, you start to feel a surge of energy, your skin actually starts to glow (making you look more youthful and attractive)…and many other things. What if all these sensations you are experiencing were actually there to help you. The evolutionary argument would seem to imply that.

It is my opinion that the sensation of approach anxiety is actually your body “gearing up” so that you can present yourself in the most attractive light possible to the woman. The problem is that for so long you didn’t know how to approach women properly (which if you are on this site you are obviously improving on this!) and so through classical conditioning, you have learned to associate these sensations as a negative thing. When you felt it, approached the woman, and got rejected (because you approached her improperly), you began to associate this feeling negatively.

So those guys out there that don’t experience approach anxiety do feel the same sensations you do, but they have trained themselves to experience them as a good thing. As something there to assist them in getting the girl. I’m not sure what I want to rename AA to, but I know now that it certainly isn’t anxiety at all. Perhaps Sexual Tension is more accurate .

Adonis