Adonis - The Ultimate Cock-Block

As the title of this article implies, I’m going to be sharing what I believe to be the #1 Cock-Block out there…and it affects ALL guys! There are many things that cause a guy to not hook up at the end of the night but there is one that is so pernicious that I believe all other things being equal, causes more guys to go home alone than anything else….and then I’m going to reveal something that goes against most of the seduction community advice that will help alleviate this cock-block from destroying your results in the field.

But first let’s get a working definition of what constitutes a “Cock-Block”.  A cock-block occurs when anything external interrupts the flow of interaction that would have otherwise led to sex.  That being the case, a guy’s “game” or skills with women (or lack thereof) is a problem of a different kind and will not be discussed in this article.

For the sake of this article we will assume that you have a decent level of skill when it comes to seducing women and deal exclusively with the external factors that get in the way of you getting the girl you want into bed.

So what are some potential candidates for the biggest cock-block?

• The Girl’s Friends?

This one seems to be the most obvious one.  Women are very much influenced by the women they associate with and their opinions are going to be a huge factor in her decision to sleep with you or not.  The solution to this type of cock-block is to win over the friends and demonstrate discretion.

If you can get her friends on your side, you won’t need to worry about them dragging your girl to the dance floor.

If you demonstrate that you can be trusted to not endanger her “social value” by being discreet you also will not set off alarms in her friends that will cause them to meddle in your interaction.

True, sometimes a girl you are interested in will have friends that regardless of what you do will still attempt to block all night.  In these situations your best bet is to discreetly arrange for better logistics free from the distraction of her cock-blocking friend(s). [I will relate a story later in this article that will give an example of how this is accomplished].

As common as this cock-block is, it can often be efficiently dealt with only a reasonable amount of social savvy.

• Her Boyfriend Or Current Relationship

Let’s face it, most women of value are going to be in some form of a relationship or another at any given time.  Although it may generally be more difficult to engage a women who is in a relationship initially, I will rarely write a girl off merely because she is already in a relationship.

However, if I meet a girl who is at the bar with her boyfriend/husband, going for a Same Night Lay would most likely be futile in the situation.  Even aiming for a Same Night Lay in the situation where the girl is on a first date with a guy she’s not remotely interested in sexually would probably be futile.

Can this be done? Sure. But most women in an effort to maintain “social balance” would not be so crass as to leave the bar with another guy in this situation unless that guy was seriously angering her.

So can this type of cock-block be dealt with?  Absolutely.  If you are interacting with a lot of attractive women you will be dealing with this form quite frequently.  To do so properly, I recommend dealing with these girls when the guy is not present and follow the strategies laid out in my “Straw Man Technique” [for more information on Straw Man Technique CLICK HERE]

• Your Friends

I hate saying this but a lot of your friends are fucking you over every night you go out.  I have had several friends in the past that found it amusing to try to fuck up every interaction I was ever engaged in at a bar.  Why they would do this exactly is somewhat unclear, but most likely reason is they never approached women and it probably drove them nuts to see me interacting with women when they were too cowardly to do the same themselves.

The thing is, I genuinely liked these guys and genuinely valued their friendship…but this form of cock-block can have a massive damaging affect on your ability to attract women.

The solution for this type of cock-block is to either sit them down and tell them explicitly what they are doing and that you don’t appreciate it as one friend to another.  A lot of the time this should be enough to fix the problem.

But often times a guy genuinely believes he is helping you when he is Cock-Blocking.  This is very often the case when the friend in question is your “wing”.  Truth be told, I prefer to go out alone because of this phenomenon.

Listen, unless you have a really good wing who is not only superbly skilled with women but also understands your style of interacting with women and can fit that in with his, your wing may be messing up your interactions more than he is helping them.

Get in the habit of going out by yourself.  This will eliminate your dependence on having a “social home base” that offers the excuse you think you need for why you are not approaching women (”We were having such a good conversation that I forgot to approach!”).

It will also prohibit you from talking about “game” which causes you to start getting to logical and analytical in your head, which is far from the best state to be in when you approach women.

Going out alone will also give you strong motivation to approach.  There are few things more boring (not to mention socially awkward) then standing around by yourself or sitting in the corner at a bar/club.  If you’re to have any fun at all, you better be approaching.

Unless you happen to have a really good wing, a socially equitable thing to do may be to designate certain nights as “bro nights” (where you can shoot the shit and sip beer with your guys all night) and other nights “hook up nights” (where you leave your cock-blocking friends and you go out and actually approach women free from cock-blocking friends).

• Social Conditioning/External Judgments

This variety of Cock-Block occurs anytime things are going along smoothly in the direction towards sex when a woman “snaps out of the moment” and allows all of her sexual baggage that has been indoctrinated in her since she was little to interfere with her own desire as a woman to hook up with a Charming Rogue such as yourself.

There are many tools that can be used to alleviate this form of Cock-Block that are so similar to just “having solid game” as to be nearly indistinguishable from “solid game” itself.  Tools such as Sexual Framing, Objection Inoculation, Building Strong Sexual Tension, etc (all of which can be found in my book “Secrets of Same Night Lays”. CLICK HERE for more info on those tools).

In short, the solution to this Cock-Block is having basic skills with women.  Any situation where this is insuffieient, you are probably dealing with a woman riddled with more sexual hang-ups & insecurities that it may not ultimately be worth wasting your efforts on (Why do this when there are so many other women that aren’t going to be so difficult!?)

The Ultimate Cock-Block

So you have been reading this article patiently and wondering what the #1 Cock-Block is and like I said it affects everyone EQUALLY.  So here it is:

• TIME!!!!

Whether we look at this from a “micro” (e.g. in the bar, at a party, etc) or on a “macro” (not to be a downer, but someday your time to live, breathe and have incredible sex with hot women will end!) level, time is the Ultimate Cock-Block!

I don’t want to say as much about time on the “macro” level other than what I always say: GET OUT THERE!!

If you’re not out interacting with women, you’re not getting laid….period! ‘Nuff said!

But I don’t think enough is said about the Ultimate Cock-Block on a “micro” level.  In fact, I would say a majority of the advice out there refuses to take this Cock-Block into consideration: With disastrous effects!

If you’ve ever been instructed to “plow” before, you may be inadvertantly causing the Ultimate Cock-Block to rear its ugly head.

Do I believe that you should push yourself?? Of course! Do I think you should be trying to escalate the interaction as much as possible (or even a bit more than you thought was possible)?? Absolutely!!

Most guys are not pushing themselves and the interaction as much as they should…but there is a huge down-side to this.

If you are constantly trying to push EVERY interaction, chances are, you are missing out on many legitimate opportunities to hook up!!

When I go out with my students, it never fails that I will more often see a guy in an interaction that is going nowhere than I will see him eject prematurely from an interaction that was on the path towards sex.

In fact, it’s not uncommon for me to  see a guy spend his entire night talking to an interesting girl who at the end of the night says to the guy, “It’s been awesome talking to you but I have to go…bye!”

The guy will then look around stunned by this and notice something else…the bar is closing and all the girls have left.  Time’s up, my friend…game over!

Time, seriously Cock-Blocked myself and my wing, Epik, only a few days ago….and this happened after we had expertly extracted our girls from a difficult logistical situation back to their hotel room.

Let me tell you the scenario and how it went down.  After a few interactions we happened upon a group of Canadian women. Two of them extremely hot, the other two, not so much.

Early on, it was unclear who was whose target. Epik and I both escalated rapidly at different times on the short but cute brunette who was quite frisky.  The blonde friend who ultimately was my target had quite possibly the nicest body I have seen on a woman in a very long time (and I live in Las Vegas, where bangin’ bodies are common).

The two other girls in the group were as follows: a short, dumpy bodied warpig and the way too old “birthday girl” (what can I say, I am not a huge fan of the “cougar craze”).  Bigger problem, the birthday girl also happened to be the sister of the short, frisky brunette’s boyfriend back in Canada.

This would normally be a logistical nightmare, but my “spidey sense” told me to proceed anyway.

Epik did his best to appease the potential Cock-Blocking friends by giving “lip service” to the b-day girl.  Meantime, I was working the 2 hot girls, Epik and I taking turns escalating the frisky one to the point that she was ready to fuck right there.

How to navigate this situation? The blonde offered to take home the obviously “drunk & horny” brunette so the b-day girl/boyfriend’s sister doesn’t have to have “her night” ruined, while they discreetly told us their room number.

Jackpot! All we have to do now is casually ditch the two ugly girls and head to the cute girls room.  Which we do with flying colors.  Everything was set for us to pull of a logistical feat as things were heating up in the room.

Then, the Cock-Blocks showed up screaming, yelling and causing a scene in the room (there room was apparently right next door and they could hear us).  We decided to leave the situation (without getting the sex we were pretty much guaranteed to have otherwise received) due to the Cock-Blocks (”On my birthday!?? How could you do this to me and my brother on my birthday!!??”)

We left thinking, “Oh well, we’ll just go find more girls!”

And that’s when the Ultimate Cock-Block kicked in!  You see, it was now 4:30 a.m. and the bar that was jammed pack previously was winding down as were Las Vegas Blvd in general. (That’s right, even in Vegas the clock is working against you despite its reputation of being a 24 hour city….girls eventually need their beauty rest!).

Try as we might, we found few if any other girls to hook up with that night…and went home alone….

The Ultimate Cock-Block eventually won this round.

Why am I telling this story?  To illustrate how the Ultimate Cock-Block, Time, affects even skilled seducers….not to mention he wreaks havoc on less skilled guys.

And the worst part is most guys are actually instructed in a way that allows for the Ultimate Cock-Block to interfere.  They are constantly attempting to “plow” or push interactions that aren’t going anywhere….at the end of the night, they’ve been in a few interactions that wasteed their time and the Ultimate Cock-Block claims another victim who now heads home alone dejected.

This is why I encourage guys NOT to plow.  Ultimately when you go out you are going to come up against the Ultimate Cock-Block and if you’ve spent your entire night in dead end interactions, the Ultimate Cock-Block claims another victory over your sex life.

My solution: Stop wasting your time on interactions that aren’t going anywhere!!

There are many things you can do to ensure this such as asking the 5 Logistical Questions (If you haven’t received your copy of “The Logistics Of Same Night Lays” sign up for the Charming Rogue™ Newsletter HERE to claim your copy), by making your intentions clear early on, by having a sexual presence, and by generally adhering to the “Blow Me or Blow Me Out!” philosophy.

Over a very quick time of honestly practicing these skills you will develop the ability to calibrate where a woman is at and develop your “spidey sense” for women that are prime for hooking up….Doing so, is your best defense against the Ultimate Cock-Block, Time!

Adonis

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